Dagney’s Rant – Parental quarrel and its impact on child psychology
Marriage is the union of two different personalities, ranging from mindset, background, culture, to principle. So, don’t be surprised if husband and wife quarrels often occur.
However, if you are a couple who already has a baby, especially when you are under five years old, it’s good for you both to start reducing this habit, especially when you’re with children.
According to a professional psychologist, a child who often sees fights his parents can doubt the happiness and peace promised in a marriage bond.
No wonder now many people think not to marry because of the trauma they experienced when they were kids. They fear that their marriage will later be like the marriage of their father and mother: full of quarrel between husband and wife.
In addition, if children often see their parents quarreling, children will lack respect for their parents. They will think, parents have been teaching positive values, but they themselves violate them. He said it was rude to shout, but why did you yell like that?
Children, especially under five years old, can easily record and imitate what people around them do. Plus, they also have sharper memory at that age.
So, if you give a bad example to a child, don’t be surprised if they imitate it. Ever heard of a child often fighting with friends at school because of the example of his father who often hit his mother?
Other effects, children also become inferior. Especially when they see other families who get along well and happily. They will tend to compare it with their family’s broken home.
Embarrassed, they did not allow their friends to play at home. Some of them chose to shut themselves in rooms, stay away from sources of noise, and pretend not to hear. Not a few children are lazy at home because they don’t find peace in it.
You definitely don’t want to experience these things? From now on, be more careful if you start sniffing the spark that will trigger a fight with your partner.
Think about ways to solve problems between parents and do not need to involve children. Husband and wife quarrels are sometimes unavoidable, but Moms can prevent children from hearing or seeing it, especially when they are young.